I do agree with some of the things you have said, but you are way too pessimistic. The only reason you haven’t had success with online dating was because you already have a notion that it is not going to work, and when you believe that each time it will not work, then you doom yourself before you even start. It’s like that saying ‘whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.’ What you need to do is to enjoy it without expectations, and be optimistic.
Online dating is not ‘our normal lives’ dating, that’s what it’s for, don’t you love it? I hear that you want to meet gay men, yet you don’t want online dating, so which one is it? What if it were just fine to do what we do online or not.
People have aligned the internet to slot machines.
It has also been said that the internet is like the Sirens in the myth. They did not offer sex, they offered infinite knowledge which crashed us into the rocks.
Modern media is a double-edged sword: it presents all the problems you mention but it does allow us communicate in ways we couldn’t previously. The irony is that you would be bale to do what you’re doing if it weren’t for the likes of Youtube, Facebook and so on!
This is an intelligent video and your accent is very cute. I have to say I think most guys, but especially gay guys, are quite shallow. It doesn’t matter how funny you are, how good a personality you might have or even how cute a face you have. If you haven’t got a good body or are overweight, you won’t get anywhere. You won’t even get to introduce yourself.
@djstuntfox Yes to all 3.Obviously not ALL of us are too shallow,superficial,and desperate (I sure as hell aint),but a majority of gays are.If less homos spent all thier time judging someone based on appearances,it might be that much easier for all of us to meet someone.
@djstuntfox I think, when making new friends, it’s best that we approach them with open mind, you know, without any judgement or prejudice. The problem is, people nowadays (gay and straight) alike, seem to forget about that. We judge even before we meet up with this guy we just chatted in the internet. We have high expectations of this fella whose picture we saw on this website, and etc, and most of the time (maybe all the time) the encounter will be short-lasting because we end up disappointed.
All your reasons why on-line gay dating doesn’t work are also reasons why gay-life in the real world doesn’t work. Also, most online sites find ways to take your money e.g. a hot looking guy messages you, you pay to respond & he ignores you (well he’s got your money & doesn’t want anything more – just like in the real world).
@Pico274 Isn’t that the truth. I have went on a gay dating website once and nobody responded to my emails except for someone who claimed to be my age and I eventually found out that he was a 70 year old guy! WTF?!
@orca1982 I have been asking myself that for a number of years now. I will say that most of the time, my best relationships have been from meeting face to face, without the internet. Like starting a conversation at a gay bar. Yeah, you do have to be a bit vulnerable (which I hate) but at least there is a starting point. I’m single right now though. It’s just so tough meeting single gay man, even though there are lots of us. Are we too superficial? Too Shallow? Too desperate? What do you think?
Sadly, this all makes sense. For me its like this; I live in country state oklahoma. There is not much here. I feel gay dating sites are my only options. And 95% of the time, I get passed up or there is no one I even want to talk to. To be honest, I’m too scared to try in the “real” world. I don’t want to put myself in harms way, but in a way I really want a heterosexual relationship, but with a man. You know? Meet at a bar, exchange numbers, date, go to movies, etc. Any suggestions?
i go online to find freinds based on similer (albeit slightly obscure) interests, for example there arent a lot of people who are into re-enactment or tabletop pen n paper rollplaying, theres nobody in my area that i know, or my freinds know, that are into asian cinima (actualy none of my freinds like asian cinima, gits) i do agree that its too easy. for dating, but when sombody points a person out to you at the party. if they said “he’s gay and likes you” would you say no? great vid btw
Not everyone can make friends… especially with the types they are attracted to. How the hell do you find someone who is gay and single in real life? The point that there is work to do makes things impossible. You think a seedy club is a better alternative than online?
ok i just paused the video at 03:14 because.. i have to tell you, that i love the way you talk, and express yourself.. its really cute.. I would approach you .. because i feel right now, some sort of need to touch you and care of you a little LOLOl, like you do with your cat.. sweet cat.
yes, it is right. i have tried to find a guy for a serious long term relationship with online dating site, but it has not worked at all.
i love this video. yes it is real. i tried hard to find a guy for a longterm relationship, but it has not worked at all.
I do agree with some of the things you have said, but you are way too pessimistic. The only reason you haven’t had success with online dating was because you already have a notion that it is not going to work, and when you believe that each time it will not work, then you doom yourself before you even start. It’s like that saying ‘whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.’ What you need to do is to enjoy it without expectations, and be optimistic.
Online dating is not ‘our normal lives’ dating, that’s what it’s for, don’t you love it? I hear that you want to meet gay men, yet you don’t want online dating, so which one is it? What if it were just fine to do what we do online or not.
People have aligned the internet to slot machines.
It has also been said that the internet is like the Sirens in the myth. They did not offer sex, they offered infinite knowledge which crashed us into the rocks.
this is the best 14:30 minutes of my life.
Modern media is a double-edged sword: it presents all the problems you mention but it does allow us communicate in ways we couldn’t previously. The irony is that you would be bale to do what you’re doing if it weren’t for the likes of Youtube, Facebook and so on!
This is an intelligent video and your accent is very cute. I have to say I think most guys, but especially gay guys, are quite shallow. It doesn’t matter how funny you are, how good a personality you might have or even how cute a face you have. If you haven’t got a good body or are overweight, you won’t get anywhere. You won’t even get to introduce yourself.
@alparcker5 No such thing as a gay relationship? Dont make me laugh LOL.Sounds like you’re intoxicated with bitterness and superficiality.
@djstuntfox Yes to all 3.Obviously not ALL of us are too shallow,superficial,and desperate (I sure as hell aint),but a majority of gays are.If less homos spent all thier time judging someone based on appearances,it might be that much easier for all of us to meet someone.
What about if you meet a guy at a gaybar?
@djstuntfox I think, when making new friends, it’s best that we approach them with open mind, you know, without any judgement or prejudice. The problem is, people nowadays (gay and straight) alike, seem to forget about that. We judge even before we meet up with this guy we just chatted in the internet. We have high expectations of this fella whose picture we saw on this website, and etc, and most of the time (maybe all the time) the encounter will be short-lasting because we end up disappointed.
great vid
All your reasons why on-line gay dating doesn’t work are also reasons why gay-life in the real world doesn’t work. Also, most online sites find ways to take your money e.g. a hot looking guy messages you, you pay to respond & he ignores you (well he’s got your money & doesn’t want anything more – just like in the real world).
@hectoracevedo73 haha I feel sorry for the guy
@Pico274 Isn’t that the truth. I have went on a gay dating website once and nobody responded to my emails except for someone who claimed to be my age and I eventually found out that he was a 70 year old guy! WTF?!
@orca1982 I have been asking myself that for a number of years now. I will say that most of the time, my best relationships have been from meeting face to face, without the internet. Like starting a conversation at a gay bar. Yeah, you do have to be a bit vulnerable (which I hate) but at least there is a starting point. I’m single right now though. It’s just so tough meeting single gay man, even though there are lots of us. Are we too superficial? Too Shallow? Too desperate? What do you think?
Sadly, this all makes sense. For me its like this; I live in country state oklahoma. There is not much here. I feel gay dating sites are my only options. And 95% of the time, I get passed up or there is no one I even want to talk to. To be honest, I’m too scared to try in the “real” world. I don’t want to put myself in harms way, but in a way I really want a heterosexual relationship, but with a man. You know? Meet at a bar, exchange numbers, date, go to movies, etc. Any suggestions?
i see your points, well, you managed to convince me that online gay dating does NOT work, then can i ask WHAT works for gay dating?
i go online to find freinds based on similer (albeit slightly obscure) interests,
for example there arent a lot of people who are into re-enactment
or tabletop pen n paper rollplaying,
theres nobody in my area that i know, or my freinds know, that are into asian cinima (actualy none of my freinds like asian cinima, gits)
i do agree that its too easy. for dating,
but when sombody points a person out to you at the party. if they said “he’s gay and likes you” would you say no? great vid btw
Not everyone can make friends… especially with the types they are attracted to. How the hell do you find someone who is gay and single in real life? The point that there is work to do makes things impossible. You think a seedy club is a better alternative than online?
ok i just paused the video at 03:14 because.. i have to tell you, that i love the way you talk, and express yourself.. its really cute.. I would approach you .. because i feel right now, some sort of need to touch you and care of you a little LOLOl, like you do with your cat.. sweet cat.
@JoeyVanzetti why thank you!
I think this might actually be my favourite video you’ve done.
i love your accent man, and your rants are great!